I assume that the intercom would take the line off hook and dial a number. You could program that number to be a speed dial, e.g. 2# and set the speed dial entry to loop back into the OBi. If SP2 is set up for SIP, e.g. Callcentric or Anveo for 911 and as a backup, then the speed dial could be sp2(1234@127.0.0.1:5061), which would now loop back into the OBi as an incoming call. The inbound call route for SP2 would recognize the 1234 and treat it differently from normal calls from your SIP provider. You'd use something like
{>1234:ph1,sp1(12123456789;d=10)},{ph1}
which says ring Phone port 1, then call 2123456789 (your cell phone) after 10 seconds (the Phone port continues to ring). Other SP2 calls would just ring Phone port 1.
IMO, don't bother getting this to work, until you know for sure how the intercom behaves and what options you have there. Also, it would be nice not to "burn" Phone port 2 just for the intercom, as you could use it for making and receiving calls while your wife is on the phone. Such dual use is probably possible, but depends on some details about the intercom that are not yet known.