I finally had a few minutes to work on this again. I found the OBIextras will not work for me. I hooked up a normal phone and was successfully able to use asterisks and say a name. The problem is two-fold. First, it does a terrible job of recognizing the name and two, you have to confirm the choice with a number.
So I took a different approach. I built a simple chatbot using Dialogflow and their phone gateway. Now when I pick up, it autodials the bot number, asks me who do I want to be connected to, I say the name and then it forwards the call to the person. It works great and is much cheaper the OBIExtras would be.